I started writing something to motivate myself, and halfway through realized it could be useful to others. I’m aware it often sounds kind of forceful, but at the time it was me talking to myself, and I need that reality check often. I hope you can find something in it for yourself as well.
You’re focusing on where you think you should be now, but in reality it’s where you might be five years from now. You will get there, but you have to work for it. Gradually build up from nothing. You’re not at nothing, so remember that. You’re further ahead than you were five years ago, and five years from now, you’ll be even further.
Just remember, this all happens gradually IF YOU WORK FOR IT. It will not simply drop into your lap; it will not magically appear one day. If you want it badly enough, it will come to you – AFTER you put in the time.
PUT IN THE TIME. Stop expecting things to happen without your input and effort.
You will get frustrated. You will want to quit a million times. Keep people around you who will push you forward when you have dug your heels in the dirt like a stubborn bull. Sometimes you need outside motivation. Sometimes you need someone telling you that quitting would be the stupidest thing you could do, and that giant dose of reality is really helpful when you get stuck in your head and all you’re hearing is negativity.
If something doesn’t work the first time, TRY AGAIN. Try again a different way. But don’t quit. Do this for yourself and no one else. If you quit, you are the only one who will be disappointed in you.
Stop comparing yourself to others. Just because you’re often seeing them on their best days does not mean they don’t have bad ones. They have the same problems you do, but nobody talks about it enough. Nobody wants to be seen as weak or failing, when in reality it happens more than success. Remember that. The next time you feel like a failure, remember that the people you look up to are probably as completely frustrated as you are. The difference is, they push on. They push past it, and you should too. This bears repeating – DON’T GIVE UP. You can do this. The only way you can’t do this is to stop. You are your own brick wall. Knock that sucker down with a mental sledgehammer and walk tall.
THE ONLY WAY YOU WILL GET WHERE YOU WANT TO GO IS TO MOVE FORWARD.